Author Archives: Ellen McGuinness

“First World Problems”

Every time I’ve heard this phrase lately, its thrown me off a bit and I’ve heard it with enough frequency that I decided to look into it.  The history of the phrase on the internet brings up a range of memes … Continue reading

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Holiday Joy/Holiday Distress

Tis the season for treats, parties, gift-giving, memories…in the best cases these things can be joyful and tinged by some occasional discomfort such as guilt, anxiety, sadness, or disappointment; in the worst cases the holiday season straight up sucks. Parties … Continue reading

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Radical Acceptance

Today is a day to practice accepting something that you really don’t like but have no control over changing, also known as radical acceptance. Yes, this topic is stimulated by the election results but can apply to many areas of … Continue reading

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Shifting towards non-judgment and objectivity

…and away from judgment and subjectivity.  Subjective statements are ones that involve opinion, judgment and ambiguity, objective statements are ones that involve specific use of facts as they are seen in that moment. Subjective based conversation: A: “He was very … Continue reading

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90 seconds of emotion

Imagine water on the ocean: the push and pull of the tide combines to create a surge and crest of a wave, which peaks and breaks creating a turbulent swarm of white water and strong forces that rush toward the beach, spreading upon the bare … Continue reading

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NOW not KNow

After a recent appointment I found myself trying to rectify why it seemed that I was talking to my client out of two sides of my mouth.  The oversimplified version was one side of my mouth was telling my client … Continue reading

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The Gifts of Imperfection Book Review

I read a book by Brene Brown, called The Gifts of imperfection: Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are; Your guide to a wholehearted life.  This is the book’s title, or just all the … Continue reading

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Monkey Mind Book Review

Daniel Smith wrote a memoir of his experiences with anxiety in the book titled Monkey mind:A memoir of anxiety.  I found this book to be well written and gripping.  Smith writes in a style that it is honest and revealing of his … Continue reading

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Cheerleading

“I can handle whatever crap (literal and actual) that my two year old dishes out” “I am an amazing parent” “I’m grateful for my vast stores of patience, without it I’d surely being snapping ten times a day.” “It’s okay to … Continue reading

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Support is key to incest survivors

I had the privilege of seeing Marilyn Van Debur Atler and her husband, Larry Atler.  The couple came to Steamboat and spoke about their experiences of overcoming the horrors of incest. I read Marilyn’s book Miss America By Day years ago and … Continue reading

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June is PTSD Awareness Month

PTSD stands for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.  The US Department of Veterans Affairs chose the month of June to raise community awareness of this mental health problem. PTSD can develop after someone has been through a life or limb threatening event, otherwise … Continue reading

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Happy days, happy life

I recently read Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project; or why I spent a year trying to sing in the morning, clean my closets, fight right, read Aristotle, and generally have more fun (phew long book title!)  I enjoyed reading it … Continue reading

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Emotional Awareness

I often encourage client to tune into their emotions. This recommendation comes up if people are consumed with one particular emotion such as anger, fear or sadness, or if they are immersed in depression or anxiety. There is a whole … Continue reading

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Why is there a poetry video on a mental health site

I have anticipated that people may wonder, but hesitate to ask, why a mental health therapist has a link to a spoken word poet on her website.  I also anticipate that some people may be reading this right now, wondering what … Continue reading

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Relationship Insights: Schnarch’s Four Points of Balance

Some basics of maintaining a satisfying relationship as seen by very experienced couples therapist/sex therapist, David Schnarch: http://crucible4points.com/crucible-four-points-balance The gist of the article is that it is important to maintain a solid sense of self as an individual in order … Continue reading

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Blues Break

The winter blues have a way of seeping in and sucking the energy out.  With the short days and cold temperatures we end up spending a lot more time indoors and life can begin to feel pretty stagnant.  The routines … Continue reading

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New Year’s Re-Resolution

Here we are three weeks in to the new year, how is your resolution turning out?  Have you made that change you pledged back on January 1 and are now reaping the benefits?  Or have you had some days of … Continue reading

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Visions of Sugar-Plums

“…Visions of sugar-plums danced in their heads…” This line from Clement Clarke Moore’s poem “The Night Before Christmas” is a reminder of how visions of the holiday season are a common occurrence.  People often have visions of exactly how events … Continue reading

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Customer Reviews of Therapy

Obviously I think therapy is beneficial, but why just take my word for it. I invite anyone who has worked with me specifically,  or worked with any therapist on a mental health issue, to submit a comment entry below or … Continue reading

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Getting Therapy does NOT mean you are “crazy”

There is a very unfortunate stigma around mental health therapy, people often think that getting therapy means you are at best “unstable” or “weak”, or at worst “crazy” or even “dangerous”.  This stigma is misguided, out of date, and of … Continue reading

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